so tired after play
Object ConstancyWhy do children do that? It has to do with "object constancy." which means that when I don't see you, you cease to exist. Now you understand why children follow their parent around, or start crying when the latter leaves the room. To them they or things cease to exist, whenever not in view.
With time object constancy develops, meaning that I know my car still is there, even though I have closed the garage, and I can't see it.
clinging to grandfather
One of the strategies is when children are in a period that they are upset or have a lot of nightmares, you can give a photo of the parent to the child to carry with them. Actually it is a strategy that also works with grown ups. When someone lost a significant person in their life, relative or friend or pet, it helps them to "get over" the loss quicker when they carry a pic or a significant object of that person with them.
Another concept in overcoming loss is "separation anxiety." People, and not only children (!) need a feeling of belonging. There is more of a likelihood of depression and a host of other emotional disorders when people are alone in the world or have feelings of abandonment.
is literally someone becoming anxious when someone leaves. I remember that during my graduate training then toddler became accident prone as soon as I dropped him off at day care.
When I alerted the day care people, they were very good in making it a big deal when I would leave, and assuring my child that I would come back. After a few weeks no more incidents.
A feeling of belongingis more than living in the same house. There are families where people live under one roof but are estranged from each other, as the phrase "strangers in the night" (as the song of Frank Sinatra) so well puts it. They are like passing trains, boats or planes as another song's lyrics say.
Let's cross the street together, Buddy
It's very important for our emotional well-being that we have at least one person we are attached to. Even better would be that one has a circle of friends (not acquaintances, but friends!).
Do you know someone who lives alone, or someone who is lonely? (These two are not synonymous. Someone can live alone, but not be lonely, and another can live in a house full of people and feel terribly lonely).
If you know someone who seems lonely, be his or her friend!