Since I started blogging, I was skeptical that it would bring me genuine friends. After all, one can only experience part of the person. Also, because a blog is a public place, one needs to keep some things private because of hackers. But the things we had in common made us try to get together since last year. And not too long ago I could get away and meet her. On one hand it was meeting someone for the first time, but the blog gave us so much to talk about that it was like meeting an old friend.
Even though she is a business person, she also has some strong artistic sides. Some time ago she sent me this large angel wing you see above. She felt "it was for me." On that blog I started an artist group, and for that group endeavor I once made a poem. She added on to that.
© In process "Safe from the storm" St.Germain
Whatever I would do with her drawing was fine with her. At the conference a few posts before, I decided to take her idea and develop it my own way - I'm still half way in the process, but you catch the drift of it.
Then one time she sent me an email about an emergency. I couldn't believe that I was the "right" friend for her situation, knowing exactly what to do.
I went into "psychologist mode" and started urging her to do step 1, 2 , 3, and 4, because she was in an acute kind of danger that she didn't know about.
It has been a long haul, and she is still adjusting, but I heard at our meet that what I told her fits in with what others had advised her.
Even though the content of our talk was very serious, I could tell she was very excited, because she wrote me three emails that same day. Sometimes a friend is just someone "being there and being present."
Now I think about it, that is the difference between a medical doctor, who is expected to fix immediately what is broken or not working, and a psychologist. Many times I have heard variations of "if you had not been there...." Some authors who write about therapy have called this "containing the patient." It simply means that the therapist is an emotional container for anger, depression, hallucinations, etc..
Can talking about it, do all of that?
Don't people need a little more than that?
It depends...they may need medication for some time, but that does not heal emotional wounds. Someone traveling by your side, and encouraging till you have crossed those deep or dark places, makes the journey bearable and doable.
I love to do that till they say they see the light at the end of the tunnel!